I’m sorry that a kidney infection is what brought you here to share your thoughts, but I’m glad to read themsparkle wrote: Tue Apr 03, 2018 12:42 am I've been sick with a kidney infection for the last few days so I've had a lot of rumination time when otherwise I wouldn't have had any.
Firstly: Easter Baking - solid video, biscuits looked pretty for once, not going to complain though I would've liked it to be about 15 minutes longer
Secondly: Pigeon Fest - iconic, clearly the best thing to happen to me in years, exactly the sort of content I want from Dan and Phil, I'm never going to complain about Dan uploading so infrequently that he could die tomorrow, have Phil take over his social media accounts, and it genuinely might take us until early May to notice.
Thirdly; my favourite topic, sexuality.
Like fuck are they going to come out before the tour. I honestly, and I mean this, will buy a hat, eat it, and stream the whole thing on YouTube, if they come out within the month. Without looking they're going to both Russia and India, which are two countries that are sketchy to be openly queer in. It also would make very little sense for them to come out BEFORE the tour, what purpose would it serve? Theres nothing necessarily appropriate about the tour being about sexuality, I interpreted the CAH answer to be more about their being forfeits for 'losers' during the show.
I know sexuality is sort of more at the forefront of everyones minds after a few comments (cheeky bum sex, things going in and out of my mouth, tbf the whole of Dans last video and then the following YouNow which I actually really enjoyed) but I think that might be part of them trying to attract a more young adult audience, as opposed to tweens. Although, the strong vibe that I personally got from Dans last video is that he probably wont ever 'come out', because its not necessary. I personally never had a big 'coming out' moment - I just lived my life, and when I had a boyfriend, I had a boyfriend, and now I've got a girlfriend, I've got a girlfriend. If you ask me questions about it, I'll be honest, and I'll express frustration at being called a lesbian, but a big announcement isn't something that is needed becuase its a social construct of a 'rite of passage', which is something I am trying to actively reject in my everyday life. Back to my point, I think the biggest confrimation we will ever get from Dan is that video. Not from him saying he's having regular sex, not even from that being open to interpretation, but from the underlying message which is essentially; he's just living his life, and we need to let him live it. He's not going to hide himself, but equally he's not going to offer up every scrap of his life to be microanalysed. And who the fuck needs labels anyway, like the only labels I actively like applying to myself are vegetarian (because to me thats an active choice to live my best life), and millenial - purely because I find it amusing that we get blamed for everything. I am fully behind Dan not labelling his sexuality, because I find it very validating to my OWN personal choice, which I sometimes feel very alone in. (which is also why this video is probably my favourite Dan video of all time, next to Depression)
Do I think D&P are queer. Wholehartedly. Do I think they're together. Yes. Do I think they'll tell us pre-tour. No, because they have a fucking tour to focus on. Do I think they might tell us afterwards, yes. Esepcailly because I think they'll be moving again soon.
Something I'm more interested about is that my perception of their sexualities has inverted, for the longest time I was CONVINCED that Dan was bi, and Phil was gay. Now, and I dont know why, I'd be willing to bet money on Dan being gay and Phil being bi. I have no idea what changed that in my head, but I can't unthink it.
Fourthly; I realised that I'm meeting Dimple and Back-Egg next month, in precisely 6 weeks, I'm not ready. How am I going to look them in the eye. I'm low-key panicking about it.
I’m with you on the labeling. Though I’ve gone through several labels and a few comings out, and yeah they can be helpful as a person trying to understand yourself and find friends, potential lovers and community, but as you settle into yourself and your life I find they are less useful. But everyone’s experiences are different. I am a bit amused/curious about your lovely speech about labels being followed by your perceptions of D&P’s sexualities changing. Because after all that I would think it doesn’t matter, their queer and together so what does it matter if one is more attracted to men than women? But we are all just human and socialized to think certain ways and our minds are funny little places. Personally I think Dan’s just at the height of a lovely gay renaissance where he is comfortable talking about guys and doesn’t feel the need to preface it as a man crush, someone he would “go gay for” or balance it out with hot female celebs. And thank goodness for that. Also as someone whose sexuality has been quite fluid, I definitely bring that bias. Love the bit I bolded.
I recommend not calling them Dimble and Back-Egg while looking them in the eye. You’ll be fine.






