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This isn't as bad as the other day where I reserved a seat and someone was sitting in it. So I was running a bit late, the film was about to start. We walk into the middle of the aisle and then sitting in the premium seats that me and my friends had booked were [a middle aged couple] whose shopping bags and coats were taking up the next two seats either side of them.

Now my friend Phil doesn't like public conflict, but when this lady looked up at me like 'young whippersnappers, stupid teenagers, what knife crime vandalism are they planning next' shit was gonna go down. And this was pretty much a completely empty cinema - rows and rows of free seats we could have sat in. So my friend looks at me like 'don't bother, man, lets just sit somewhere else.' But that wasn't the point. It was the principle.

Now I'm aware I've painted a picture of myself on here as someone who is quite often prone to doing completely inexplicable awkward things, but at the same time I am quite confident and outgoing so I had no problem going,

"Excuse me."
"What?"
"You're um, sitting in our seats."
"What."
"Yep. That's seats 12, 13, and 14."
"You actually want us to-"
"Oh yeah."

Begin the very awkward twenty seconds of shuffling past. It was worth it.

It was just me, my friend, and four women sat directly in front of us. [describes shushing the women in front of him]

The thing was, as we were literally the only other people in the room, it wasn't as anonymous as it could have been - especially for my friend who was like, "You did not just do that. Oh my god. Oh my god. I don't know you. I don't know you."

alittledizzy wrote: Sun Apr 11, 2021 1:51 pm 2:34 - We Need to Talk About Kevin


3:19 - The Woman in Black
3:58 - Paranormal Activity 3
4:50 - Avatar (in 3D)

alittledizzy wrote: Sun Apr 11, 2021 6:18 pm What is that first story? I don't understaaaaaaaand him.

Howell (The Amazing Book is Not on Fire) has written a book that could be read in tandem with Matt Haig's The Midnight Library. With the same themes of choice, fate, and decision-making, Howell's book offers practical guidance on handling life's toughest experiences, both in the immediate moment and in the short- and long-term aftermath. The author discusses breathwork, grounding, and mindfulness and recommends that readers learn these strategies before they need them so that they're second nature during a crisis. He offers useful ways to recover in the physical body following an experience that causes stress or anxiety, and provides ideas for working within different healing modalities to ensure that trauma is recognized, addressed, and dealt with in highly individualized, evolving ways. Exercises on developing empathy and compassion for the self are featured throughout. VERDICT Bold, raw, and powerful, Howell's book—which also draws from his own experiences—becomes one thread of a narrative about finding hope and healing. It doesn't ever feel too positive, simplistic, reductive, or one-dimensional. Like his previous books, this one will find a wide audience.—Emily Bowles, Lawrence Univ., WI

Library Journal

rizzo wrote: Mon Apr 12, 2021 3:30 am Was doing a bit of creepin' around re: Dan's book and found this full review on B&N's website. Have we seen the whole thing before?

Howell (The Amazing Book is Not on Fire) has written a book that could be read in tandem with Matt Haig's The Midnight Library. With the same themes of choice, fate, and decision-making, Howell's book offers practical guidance on handling life's toughest experiences, both in the immediate moment and in the short- and long-term aftermath. The author discusses breathwork, grounding, and mindfulness and recommends that readers learn these strategies before they need them so that they're second nature during a crisis. He offers useful ways to recover in the physical body following an experience that causes stress or anxiety, and provides ideas for working within different healing modalities to ensure that trauma is recognized, addressed, and dealt with in highly individualized, evolving ways. Exercises on developing empathy and compassion for the self are featured throughout. VERDICT Bold, raw, and powerful, Howell's book—which also draws from his own experiences—becomes one thread of a narrative about finding hope and healing. It doesn't ever feel too positive, simplistic, reductive, or one-dimensional. Like his previous books, this one will find a wide audience.—Emily Bowles, Lawrence Univ., WI

Library Journal

I'm fascinated by a couple of points here.

Having just read The Midnight Library myself, that correlation is really interesting. (TW: SI & also - not-really-spoilery spoilers about TML, just in case)

That book is quite literally a novel about someone dealing with their attempted suicide. It's also... a novel. So, I'm curious how this reviewer sees these books being read in tandem? From what I'm picking up here, perhaps the main character in TML is tackling the kind of thoughts and challenges Dan will cover in his book? Interesting. Much to think about.

Also: "breathwork, grounding, and mindfulness"? My immediate thought was "What in the Adrian Howell?!" but that's not really fair of me. These are important things to learn and to understand in moments of stress and anxiety and I imagine Dan will address them appropriately. It's also probably the tip of a more detailed iceberg. After all, this is but a single review. More than anything, it's making me re-evaluate my mental image of what Dan's therapy sessions might have been like. i think I never took into account that he might see someone more holistic? Which now suddenly makes me think --- why wouldn't he?! I hesitate to say all of this because the topic is very nuanced. Really, my only take is: Oh, interesting...

alittledizzy wrote: Mon Apr 12, 2021 3:40 am

rizzo wrote: Mon Apr 12, 2021 3:30 am Was doing a bit of creepin' around re: Dan's book and found this full review on B&N's website. Have we seen the whole thing before?

Howell (The Amazing Book is Not on Fire) has written a book that could be read in tandem with Matt Haig's The Midnight Library. With the same themes of choice, fate, and decision-making, Howell's book offers practical guidance on handling life's toughest experiences, both in the immediate moment and in the short- and long-term aftermath. The author discusses breathwork, grounding, and mindfulness and recommends that readers learn these strategies before they need them so that they're second nature during a crisis. He offers useful ways to recover in the physical body following an experience that causes stress or anxiety, and provides ideas for working within different healing modalities to ensure that trauma is recognized, addressed, and dealt with in highly individualized, evolving ways. Exercises on developing empathy and compassion for the self are featured throughout. VERDICT Bold, raw, and powerful, Howell's book—which also draws from his own experiences—becomes one thread of a narrative about finding hope and healing. It doesn't ever feel too positive, simplistic, reductive, or one-dimensional. Like his previous books, this one will find a wide audience.—Emily Bowles, Lawrence Univ., WI

Library Journal

I'm fascinated by a couple of points here.

Having just read The Midnight Library myself, that correlation is really interesting. (TW: SI & also - not-really-spoilery spoilers about TML, just in case)

That book is quite literally a novel about someone dealing with their attempted suicide. It's also... a novel. So, I'm curious how this reviewer sees these books being read in tandem? From what I'm picking up here, perhaps the main character in TML is tackling the kind of thoughts and challenges Dan will cover in his book? Interesting. Much to think about.

Also: "breathwork, grounding, and mindfulness"? My immediate thought was "What in the Adrian Howell?!" but that's not really fair of me. These are important things to learn and to understand in moments of stress and anxiety and I imagine Dan will address them appropriately. It's also probably the tip of a more detailed iceberg. After all, this is but a single review. More than anything, it's making me re-evaluate my mental image of what Dan's therapy sessions might have been like. i think I never took into account that he might see someone more holistic? Which now suddenly makes me think --- why wouldn't he?! I hesitate to say all of this because the topic is very nuanced. Really, my only take is: Oh, interesting...

Oooh FANTASTIC find.

Is breathwork grounding, and mindfulness a marker of only holistic therapy? We do also know he was on medical. I don't have a lot of personal experience to draw on her but my ex-girlfriend was in therapy and she definitely had a mix of meditation/breathing techniques for anxiety, talk therapy, and medication. Or am I wrong in assuming holistic generally excludes medication? I guess what I'm getting at here is that I think I was just assuming most therapy is a mixed bag approach...

alittledizzy wrote: Mon Apr 12, 2021 3:40 am

rizzo wrote: Mon Apr 12, 2021 3:30 am Was doing a bit of creepin' around re: Dan's book and found this full review on B&N's website. Have we seen the whole thing before?

Howell (The Amazing Book is Not on Fire) has written a book that could be read in tandem with Matt Haig's The Midnight Library. With the same themes of choice, fate, and decision-making, Howell's book offers practical guidance on handling life's toughest experiences, both in the immediate moment and in the short- and long-term aftermath. The author discusses breathwork, grounding, and mindfulness and recommends that readers learn these strategies before they need them so that they're second nature during a crisis. He offers useful ways to recover in the physical body following an experience that causes stress or anxiety, and provides ideas for working within different healing modalities to ensure that trauma is recognized, addressed, and dealt with in highly individualized, evolving ways. Exercises on developing empathy and compassion for the self are featured throughout. VERDICT Bold, raw, and powerful, Howell's book—which also draws from his own experiences—becomes one thread of a narrative about finding hope and healing. It doesn't ever feel too positive, simplistic, reductive, or one-dimensional. Like his previous books, this one will find a wide audience.—Emily Bowles, Lawrence Univ., WI

Library Journal

I'm fascinated by a couple of points here.

Having just read The Midnight Library myself, that correlation is really interesting. (TW: SI & also - not-really-spoilery spoilers about TML, just in case)

That book is quite literally a novel about someone dealing with their attempted suicide. It's also... a novel. So, I'm curious how this reviewer sees these books being read in tandem? From what I'm picking up here, perhaps the main character in TML is tackling the kind of thoughts and challenges Dan will cover in his book? Interesting. Much to think about.

Also: "breathwork, grounding, and mindfulness"? My immediate thought was "What in the Adrian Howell?!" but that's not really fair of me. These are important things to learn and to understand in moments of stress and anxiety and I imagine Dan will address them appropriately. It's also probably the tip of a more detailed iceberg. After all, this is but a single review. More than anything, it's making me re-evaluate my mental image of what Dan's therapy sessions might have been like. i think I never took into account that he might see someone more holistic? Which now suddenly makes me think --- why wouldn't he?! I hesitate to say all of this because the topic is very nuanced. Really, my only take is: Oh, interesting...

Oooh FANTASTIC find.

Is breathwork grounding, and mindfulness a marker of only holistic therapy? We do also know he was on medical. I don't have a lot of personal experience to draw on her but my ex-girlfriend was in therapy and she definitely had a mix of meditation/breathing techniques for anxiety, talk therapy, and medication. Or am I wrong in assuming holistic generally excludes medication? I guess what I'm getting at here is that I think I was just assuming most therapy is a mixed bag approach...

rizzo wrote: Mon Apr 12, 2021 3:30 am Was doing a bit of creepin' around re: Dan's book and found this full review on B&N's website. Have we seen the whole thing before?

Howell (The Amazing Book is Not on Fire) has written a book that could be read in tandem with Matt Haig's The Midnight Library. With the same themes of choice, fate, and decision-making one thread of a narrative about finding hope and healing.

Having just read The Midnight Library myself, that correlation is really interesting. (TW: SI & also - not-really-spoilery spoilers about TML, just in case)

That book is quite literally a novel about someone dealing with their attempted suicide. It's also... a novel. [/i]

kavat wrote: Mon Apr 12, 2021 5:45 pm I find it hilarious that the only pictures we've seen are of the stairs. Will we ever see another corner of their home? Who knows. Maybe it's all stairs.

• have you ever been to therapy

• are there any opportunities you missed because you were publicly closeted?

• how has financial prosperity changed your life?

• who was the first person you came out to?

• how did you navigate sexuality+being online at uni? are there deleted gay phil vids

alittledizzy wrote: Mon Apr 12, 2021 7:11 pm Nothing brings me more joy than Phil asking for risque questions. What I've submitted so far:

• have you ever been to therapy

• are there any opportunities you missed because you were publicly closeted?

• how has financial prosperity changed your life?

• who was the first person you came out to?

• how did you navigate sexuality+being online at uni? are there deleted gay phil vids